Butch Girl's Guide to becoming a womxn
A self love story
Chapter Five - Girls Just Wanna Have Fun
“Freedom’s just another word for nothing left to lose.” Janis Joplin sang that. I’m ready to lose the shame of feeling free in my body. It’s not intrinsic to me. It was handed to me over time from a world unwilling to change. I’m setting it down, along with my coffee, and I’m going for a swim in a new pool of self-confidence and love. Come with me, I have extra towels!
Chapter Six - Boys Don’t Cry
There have been so many times in my life when a person has used violence to try and silence me, or force me into obedience. Numerous bystanders have watched me get hit and done nothing to stop it. Once, an ex-Girlfriend of mine stood in a crowded courtyard and slapped me across the face repeatedly, and only when I grabbed her arm to stop her did anyone step in. The bystanders stopped me because they were afraid of what I’d do to her. To her! They watched me get assaulted and never registered it. The psychological trauma of watching someone you love raise their hand to hurt you intentionally is far worse than any bruise. That kind of hurt doesn’t heal. Just because I look like I can take it doesn’t mean I can. Nobody can.
Chapter Seven - With a Little Help From My Friends
Being lonely when you’re in a couple is one of the hardest things. Having someone to talk to, laugh with, play, be silly, vent, takes a huge amount of pressure off your relationship and gives you an outlet for your own identity. Butch girls need butch girl friends. It’s so important to have the other kind of “girlfriends” when you have a partner.